LIFE IS SHORT. LONG LIVE LIFE!
(Sermon by the Rev. Dr. Winfred B. Vergara at the “Celebration of Life” (funeral mass) for Al Jaug Adlaon held at St. James Episcopal Church, 84-07 Broadway, Elmhurst, NY 11373 .09.13.2014)
Let us pray: Lord, we look up to you today. You alone can truly answer our deepest needs. You alone can truly mend our broken hearts. You alone can truly wipe the tears from our eyes. You alone can truly comfort us. You alone can give us life abundant here on earth and in the age to come life everlasting. Amen.
Having known Al for quite some time, I believe he would not want us to have all tears and sorrows. I believe he also wants us to have smiles and laughter. After all this is a celebration of his life. So I will begin with something funny.
Two men died and went to heaven: one was a priest, the other a New York taxi driver. In heaven there are many mansions, so the driver was given a huge and beautiful mansion. But the priest, he was given only a little condo. Naturally, he complained. St. Peter explained: “I’m sorry Reverend, but we reward people in heaven based on their faith in Jesus Christ but also on their performance while on earth. You see, when you preach, the people are sleeping. But when this driver drives, people are praying!”
Well, I pray you won’t sleep during this sermon, because I also want to have a mansion in heaven.
Life is short. To quote one Shakespeare: “Life is but a walking shadow, a poor player. That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, and then is heard no more.”
After the house blessing, we went to a nearby restaurant for dinner. Al described the place as “a French Restaurant owned by an Italian, managed by a Chinese and staffed by Latinos.” I was fascinated by Al’s wit and sense of humor.
A couple of years ago, Al and Sany, Fr. Ray and Uning, and Angie and me were in a Group Tour in Europe. We had a longer time for fellowship and conversation. Al and I were former journalists. We love reading. We love writing. We were both editors. So I always look forward to have another meeting with Al.
But last month, August 18, Father Ray called me up to say that Al collapsed after playing tennis and never recovered. Al Adlaon, born 1955, died 2014. He was barely 59 years old. It was shocking: he was young, healthy-looking, and sports-minded. How could he die that soon?
David, the shepherd boy who became the greatest king of Israel and author of most of the Psalms, wrote: “Our days are like grass: or as flowers of the field, it flourishes for a while and the wind passes over it and it is gone” (Ps. 103). He put our average lifespan to be “seventy years---or eighty, if we have the strength…and then we quickly pass and fly away” (Ps. 90). And then he prayed, “So Lord, teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”
“Number our days,” means order our lives, set our priorities right. “Heart of wisdom,” make sense of our short life. How do we do that?
Stephen Covey, one of Al’s favorite authors, (“Seven Habits of Highly Effective Persons”) said that each one of us should have a four-fold mission statement which says: “To live, to love, to learn, and to leave a legacy.” If we give due attention to this “four L’s,” we will make sense of our short lives.
1. Mission one is ‘to live.’ To simply live life to the full; to live with a sense of adventure and meaning. We should not waste our short life with worries, anger and resentment but simply live with joy, contentment and peace.
My wife and I love to travel. As missionaries and tourists, we’ve been to so many parts of the world. We also lived in at least three countries---Philippines, Singapore and the United States. We’ve collected many souvenirs, heard many stories, learned many cultures and met many friends. One of my friends was a British priest, Canon Roy Yin, who lived to be a hundred years old. During my last visit, we had dinner and when we parted, I said, “Roy, take care” and he replied “Fred, take risks.” That was a great advice. If we must live life to the full, let us not be afraid to take risks, to venture in unknown territories. In the words of Captain Kirk of Star Trek, “to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go where no one has gone before.” If life is short, we should live it to the full.
2. Mission two is “to love.” Love is the greatest commandment and the Bible says “love is the fulfilling of the law.” If you have love, you can do anything and everything you do would make sense.
One of Al and Sany's best friends commented in his eulogy that
I am reminded of a group of Filipino husbands who died and went to heaven. Before assigning them their mansions, St. Peter wanted to know how they performed as “men of the house.” Peter said, “All of you who were ‘henpecked husbands’ on earth (‘Andres De Saya’ in Tagalog), move one step backward.” Everybody moved except one. So Peter said, “Well, I’m glad there is at least one who is ‘macho,’ who was not a henpecked husband.” He came over and whispered to the man, “Well, Sir, what is your secret?” The man replied, “No secret, St. Peter; my wife just ordered me not to move!”
One of the benedictions being used in Church says” “Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are travelling the dark journey with us. So be swift to love and make haste to be kind.’ Surely Al loved his wife.
Love is often easier said than done. Often, our love is conditional. We love only the people who love us. We find it hard to love the unloving and the unlovable. But true love is unconditional. It is not subject to the treatment we receive. It is a self-transcending and self-abdicating. It is a gift that is simply given away, expecting nothing in return. As one poet said, “A house is still a house even when there’s no one living there; a chair is still a chair even when there’s no one sitting there; but love cannot be love, until it is given away.”
God’s love is so radical, so lavish and so unconditional. Jesus did not wait for us to be good when he loved us. It was “while we were yet sinners that Christ died for us.” So our second mission in life is to approximate Christ’s unconditional love in the life we live and in the relationships we create.
3. Mission three is “to learn.” This is where Al really shone like a star. He believed that education is a never-ending process. His resume contains so many educational attainments. BA in Journalism in Silliman University; MA in Communications in the University of Hawaii; MA in Journalism in New York Graduate School of Arts and Sciences. He worked as a teacher, a professor, an editor, and as a self-taught financial adviser. Even in his early retirement, he never stopped learning new things. He was member of many civic groups including Rizal Youth Club, Silliman University Alumni Association, the Riverdale Chorale Society and the Philippine Jaycees.
The world is so full of mysteries waiting to be explained. The world has many secrets waiting to be discovered. It makes you young when you have the curiosity of a child. Education is also one of the great equalizers in any society. If you are highly educated, you stand better chances of improving your life and the life of your family. We must have a hunger for learning and a zest for life.
4. Mission Four is “to leave a legacy.” Sometime ago, I was in a park and saw this sign: “Take nothing but pictures and leave nothing but footprints.”
Of course, it meant don’t take anything valuable from the park and don’t leave any of your belongings behind, but its meaning to me was more than that. There is nothing we can take from this world. Naked we came into this world and naked we will go back. From dust we came and unto dust we shall return. But there is something more precious than silver or gold, more valuable than money or estate that we can leave behind. It is a legacy of faith, faith in Jesus Christ, the Son of the living God.
St. Paul had a disciple name Timothy. It is rare for a teacher to admire a student, but St Paul said, “Tim, I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also. “
This is the legacy that will surely bring us to heaven: the continuity of the faith from generation to generation. It is faith in Christ and the power of His resurrection. Jesus said in John 14, “Believe in God, believe in me. In My Father’s house, there are many mansions. If it were not so, I would have told you. I will go to prepare a place for you, and if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and take you to myself, so that where I am, there you maybe also.” Thomas asked, “Lord, how can we know the way?” And Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth and the Life; no one comes to the Father but by Me.”
I believe Al is at the moment being welcomed in the mansion in heaven because of his faith in Jesus Christ. And if there is a lasting legacy that he has left with us, it is his “sincere faith.”It is this faith in the promised resurrection that will remove our sadness, that will soothe the pain of separation, and that will overcome the sting of death. It is this faith that will assure us that our loved ones who departed will rest in peace and rise in glory in that utopia of peace and tranquility.
Let me end with this simple image of how I view Al’s funeral today. Years ago when Al left his country, the Philippines, and came to America, his family and friends, gave him a farewell party. Then they brought him to Manila International Airport. As the plane lifted up, the people below saw it disappeared in the clouds. Al might not return to Philippines. Meanwhile, after few hours of air travel, another set of Al’s family and friends were waiting to welcome him in America. They saw the plane emerged from the clouds and finally landed at JFK Airport. These family and friends of Al in America received him and gave him a Welcome Party.
My faith tells me that we are here today in an earthly airport having a Farewell party for Al; but there, at the heavenly airport, he will be welcomed by Jesus in the company of the saints and of those loved ones who have gone before. And one day, when our own time comes, we will also fly to the Heavenly Airport---and Al will be there, with Jesus and the Welcoming Party. With his big smile and open arms Al will say, “Welcome to Eternity!”